Big changes are scary. We’re not in control. We’re jumping into the unknown. We’re breaking foreign ground. In times like these, we will often cling onto certain relationships or situations that we feel we can control, where we think we’re holding the reigns. This makes things much more comfortable but comfort doesn’t bring happiness. Comfort brings stagnation. Comfort often means settling.
This human experience we are having can be confusing as f@*$! I know first hand, when I’m going through changes I tend to become an extremist. I feel like I need to live a certain way all the time fitting into this perfect little box, but who created this box? I did. We just need to be ourselves. Our truest most authentic selves and that can be even scarier. You might ask “Who am I really? and are people going to like the real me?”
We are always evolving and growing. This changing that we do is actually really beautiful. It’s the journey we go through when on our way to bigger and better things that can be without-a-doubt terrifying, but so worth it!
Here is the problem – we are afraid to fail and we are afraid of rejection. Actually, it’s our ego that’s afraid. So often we look for an escape but we’re too afraid to leave our current situation and leap into the unknown. Maybe we hold onto that relationship that isn’t good for us or we turn a vice into a addiction due to fear holding us back. Our ego will probably mess with us, convincing ourselves to stay where it’s safe. If we don’t take that leap sure, we can’t fail but there is also no chance for us to potentially succeed if we did. Why would we avoid potential success? Because of potential failure and failure is the worst thing that can happen, right? Wrong! Failure is a lesson. Failure is where we get back up and do it a little bit better than we did it before by learning and growing from our mistakes.
I don’t know about you but I want to wake up every morning feeling pretty damn amazing. Some decisions I’ve made in the past have had me waking up feeling anxious, upset, angry or guilty. I knew in my gut what I should have done but I did the opposite because it felt good in the moment. However, we’re all human. We’re not always going to make the right decisions the first time. We’re going to make mistakes and we’re sure as hell not always going to listen to our gut or even to our soul. It’s called trial and error. Its called living.
What it all comes down to is finding the courage to listen to that little voice inside and being true to ourselves. So let’s try and be the best versions of ourselves EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. and when we aren’t feeling so great, well, sometimes we just need that day to not feel so great!
Whatever we are feeling, we just have to learn to love and live in harmony with it.
Peace and Love,